"Learn to labor and to wait" ~Longfellow
One of my favourite authors has written that our dreams always take longer to achieve than we ever expect them to when we start out on our journey toward achieving them. As a future orientated person I spend time planning and stepping out my future goals and dreams. I am always generous with the amount of time I allow to achieve objectives, but because life is so full, it often takes months longer to achieve goals than I had anticipated. Does this effect my serenity? Oh yes indeed. I work on releasing the frustration so that I feel better in the present, but I often wonder why does it take us so long to achieve my dreams?
Sometimes I worry that my dreams will never fully manifest. Such doubt is really quite dangerous. Not only can it make me feel despondent it puts me at risk of giving up. I stop to remind myself that many people lose what they don't have; those things they are aiming for and dreaming about; because they have not learned to grab hold of those thoughts of doubt and wrestle them to the ground. In short they give up.
Then there are the other background mind noises. The "if only" thoughts, that can easily replace serenity with mild melancholia. If only I had walked away earlier on from those relationships and situations that were hindering me. If only I had met my husband sooner. And so on. But spending time in the land of regret will not help me be present with all today's wonderful possibilities.
My ego sits like a child in the back seat of the car, asking: 'Are we there yet?' No. "Are we there yet?" No. "How long until we are there?" We will be there when we arrive. "Are we theeerrreee yyyyeeet?." Sheesh that takes a lot of emotional energy to deal with.
Waiting upon our dreams is one of life's universal themes. I am not the only person to have struggled with holding fast my purpose whilst waiting for my delayed dreams to arrive. I won't let delayed dreams steal my energy, I hope you don't let them steal yours either.