"It is in loving, not being loved, the heart is blessed;
It is in giving, not in seeking gifts we find our quest;
Whatever be your longing or your need, that give;
So shall your soul be fed, and you indeed shall live."
You might remember that back in November I wrote about nourishing ourselves in mind, body and spirit, and that I listed what feelings I wanted to experience in my life more consistently. Danielle Laporte describes this succinctly as core desired feelings. The point behind discovering what feelings I want more present in my life is I can use that information to set my goals and make my decisions. For me this is all about making sure I don't have my ladder up against the wrong wall.
My list of essential desired feelings is recorded in my November post. Today I am writing about my core desired feeling, love.
In February I wrote how I was going to include more joy into my life. Writing about what brings me joy was easy, I just had to spend a little time with my memories, thinking back to when I felt joy in my life. I found it more difficult to work out how to bring more love into my life. I have wonderful people in my life who love me and who I love, so it wasn't love from outside myself I was wanting more experience of. I was stumped. And then I remembered reading early last year an exercise from Louise Hay's book "You can heal your life". It is a simple exercise called "I love myself" and all it entails is taking a pen and paper and writing "I love myself; therefore" and finishing the sentence in as many ways as possible. In part my list looks like this:
- I love myself; therefore I speak to myself in kind, upbuilding words
- I love myself; therefore I allow myself plenty of time to do the things I want to do in the order and manner I choose
- I love myself; therefore I acknowledge I am responsible for meeting my own needs and wants and other people are responsible for meeting their own needs and wants
- I love myself; therefore I think in a loving positive way about others knowing what I measure out will come back to me tenfold.
- I love myself; therefore I take time to listen to my favourite music
- I love myself; therefore I dress in clothes I feel good wearing
- I love myself; therefore I practice thinking deliberately and feeling deliberately
- I love myself; therefore when I am feeling and thinking negatively I reach for a better feeling thought
- I love myself; therefore I let my higher self and God handle my life for me and I remain receptive to their guidance
- I love myself; therefore I listen to my bodies needs and treat my body with dignity and love
- I love myself; therefore I acknowledge that when I change the way I look at things, the things I look at change.
- I love myself; therefore I welcome order into my life
- I love myself therefore I create a life I love to look at
I will write the next post in this series in a few weeks time, when I will be looking at playfulness.